So many reasons we get married that swirl through my mind:
-Its the next phase in life
- Its better than being alone
- The ability to procreate, have a family.
- Save money.
- Finally someone you love more than yourself.
- Insurance coverage is easier and more affordable.
- You've met your "soulmate".
- You've lived together for 7 years and its common law.
I suppose the list could go on, as I ponder all the reasons I see others marry I can only speak of my experience and what has led me to this point. It is simple really. You may have seen 'When Harry met Sally'. At the climactic conclusion of the movie when Harry comes to gather up his Sally, he simple states 'When you decide you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.
When I met Micah J. Day June 9, 2008, we began a friendship that I did not want to end. I had a subtle feeling from the inception it was something that should continue. Maybe I am looking for the 'happily ever after', or better 'happily FOREVER after', but I have no desire for this relationship to terminate. Unlike a plethora of relationships I have dabbled in this life with men, this one felt instinctual from the start. The truth is, you can't fight nature. I spent the last 3 years of my life, living the dream, dabbling from yoga instructor, event manager, photographer, trapezist, Cookie baker. Each and every role, hobby, and occupation I met bright inspiring individual, celebrities, and world renowned teachers. I worked for those that brought their dreams to fruition in Manhattan, both successful, and not. I have tasted of the great adundance mother earth has to offer, engaging with all varieties of human beings with all interests, tastes, and dialects. I have dabbled in the most exquisite cupcakes, the finest made ice cream, the most intriguing shops, abundant farmers markets, the poorest and richest neighborhoods. I rode the subway with the downtrodden with the least material wealth, and then sat next to the millionaire next door. I have been serenated in the park, swung from a trapeze, run through central park, walked from the top of manhatten to the very bottom.
The city of NYC offered mystique, intrigue, challenge, vibrancy, excitement, a melting pot of diversity, life lavish and radically simple all at the same time. The city inherently hides an intense contrast of dualities, extremes in every square inch. They say you either love it or hate, and I unabashedly will lead the "I LOVE NYC" Group. In a cliche generalization I could say New York City is 'Where I found myself', it is where I came to experience everything life has to offer, sucking the marrow out of life.
With all the beauty and gratitude of that experience as I reflect on 2008, the year of freedom, I realize I found a freedom in myself not felt prior. A freedom not only in the exterior landscape, but more importantly the interior landscape. I realize today that I am exactly where I need to be, and that I have everything I need within to be whole.
About a month ago I made a trek back west to the great state of Utah to progress my journey with Micah. It came to me not long after being in Utah that 2009 would be the year of love, exploring what it is, how it functions, and how to offer it back up to our creator. I have an exciting year ahead in which to report my findings. I hope you will join me for the adventure.
Love and lightness in the new year.
